• never argues
• are not dependant on each other
• both want sex equally
• never get angry
• get all their needs met
• share responsibilities equally
• never feel lonely
• always agree
• think alike
• never get bored
• always know what the other wants
• resolve all of their problems

all these don't determine true love. the basic ingredients of true love, sure we all know... Chemistry, compatibility and commitment. Most couples always have the chemistry thing, but they seldom last cause of lack of compatibility and uncommitted.. there is a stage that couples should experience to sustain and perpetuate true love.

First.. one must understand.. izzit falling in love? or infatuation?

what is infatuation? infatuation is defined as lacking of sound judgement, foolish, completely carried away by foolish or shallow love or affection, or extrapolating from insufficient information. Infuatuation is universal, no one has a corner on it. From the outset it is important to distinguish infatuation from sex drive, which is simply the CRAVING for sexual gratification. humans can feel the urge for sex with someone without having romantic inclinations. you can be attracted to alot of poeple but infatuated with only one at a time. when u are infatuated with a person, only this person can give you those euphoric 'in love' feelings. Infatuation triggers euphoria, an altered state of consciousness induced by the action of consciousness induced by the action of what neurobiologists call PEA, which is known as love molecule. The symptomes.. ilcude a delightful positive attitude, increased energy, decreased need of sleep, and loss of appetite. Sex enters the picture with the admixture of PEA, dopamine and norepinephrine. this delightful influence of infatuation makes us dangerously inclined to make decisions we may later regret.

To sustaio a relationship, one must consist of a man and woman who get along well. Kindness and respect are hallmarks of such a couple, as they are always ready to override negative interactions with positive ones. their compatibility and firndship dominate their relationship. They often begin their relationship as friends and progress into loving each other. The two must confide and consult with each other regularly. They also talk with one another and laugh together often, everyday, even when at work, they are good friends, enriching their friendship with love's chemistry - romance.

Love can be express in different ways. Eros, philia and agape are three of them.

Eros refers to sexual love. english meaning is erotic. Philia means brotherly love or genuine affection. Agape however, is the noblest form of love. agape has to do with the mind. it rises above emotion to encompass the principles by which we deliberately live. Agape can be defined as caring love.

we gotta put the pieces together by beginning with the "love molecule" or love's chemistry, moved forward to love's compatibility and then to love's commitment in marriage. These are the physiological and psychological contributions to what the world calls 'true love'. but the final and perfect contributor to a happy marriage is agape. Any marriage that possesses agape has the greatest opportunity to have a lifelong marriage with each partner luxuriating in outgoing concern for the other person.

thnx for reading